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Understanding self-determination theory for homeschoolers

Learn how Self-Determination Theory can boost your child's learning experience at home.
Lisa Thorsen
Written byLisa Thorsen
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Key takeaways
  • Homeschooling effectively supports children's motivation by fulfilling three key psychological needs identified in Self-Determination Theory: autonomy, competence, and relatedness
  • By allowing kids to make choices in their learning, providing constructive feedback, and fostering strong connections, parents can enhance their child's intrinsic motivation and love for learning.

Self-Determination Theory (SDT) explores what drives human motivation. It focuses on the balance between external rewards and internal satisfaction. When key psychological needs are met, people are more engaged and motivated to learn.

Research from the National Home Education Research Institute (NHERI) shows that homeschooled students typically score 15 to 25 percentile points higher than public school students on standardized academic achievement tests. According to the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES), approximately 3.3 million students were homeschooled in the United States as of 2023, representing roughly 6% of the school-age population.

What is self-determination theory?

Self-Determination Theory is all about understanding what motivates people. Developed by Edward L. Deci and Richard M. Ryan at the University of Rochester in the 1970s, this theory helps explain why some students are active learners while others lose interest. SDT suggests that motivation exists on a scale—from rewards and punishments to genuine interest and enjoyment. When certain psychological needs are fulfilled, intrinsic motivation grows.

The three psychological needs

SDT highlights three key needs that help boost motivation:

  • Autonomy: This means having control over your learning. Kids should engage in learning because they want to, not just because someone tells them to.
  • Competence: This is about feeling skilled and making progress. It grows with the right challenges and helpful feedback.
  • Relatedness: This need is about connecting with others. Kids thrive on warmth, respect, and feeling like they belong. When all three needs are met, children don’t just follow rules—they truly enjoy learning.

Why SDT matters for homeschooling

Research shows that homeschooling aligns well with SDT. It naturally meets all three psychological needs. Traditional classrooms often limit autonomy due to strict curriculums and time limits, which can hurt motivation. Studies find that as kids go through regular schooling, their intrinsic motivation often decreases. In contrast, homeschooling allows students to choose what and how they learn. This personalized approach, along with a supportive family environment, fosters a sense of security that many classrooms can’t offer.

Applying SDT at home

You don’t have to be a laid-back teacher to support SDT. Autonomy isn’t about no structure; it’s about giving real choices. For example, let your child pick between two books on a topic or choose the order of their subjects each day. For competence, focus on feedback that encourages growth, not comparisons to peers. Relatedness usually flourishes in a homeschooling setting, but adding warmth and respect can make it even stronger. Many parents already do this naturally. SDT simply explains why it works so well.

The bottom line

Self-Determination Theory provides a clear reason for what many experienced homeschoolers feel: kids learn best when they have ownership of their education, feel capable, and connect with their teachers. The homeschool setting supports these needs better than many traditional classrooms. By understanding SDT, you can help keep your child's love for learning alive.

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Lisa Thorsen
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Lisa Thorsen

Co-founder, BetterSchool

Lisa is the co-founder of BetterSchool and a homeschool mom of three. BetterSchool administers the largest independent homeschool community in the country — over 350,000 families across all 50 states.

When COVID hit, Lisa and her husband pulled their children out of school and hit the road. Homeschooling wasn't the plan — it was a necessity. But somewhere along the way, the family fell in love with it: the time together, the ability to tailor lessons to each child's interests, learning at their own pace, the freedom to travel, eating healthy on their own schedule, and the countless other benefits that come with homeschooling.

As they traveled, Lisa kept discovering incredible hands-on learning experiences that most homeschool families had no way of finding. She built BetterSchool to make it easy for every family to find and book the experiences that make learning come alive.

Through her community, Lisa has helped hundreds of thousands of parents navigate homeschooling, while also helping local businesses find and serve the homeschool community. She is the former managing partner of a law firm focused on business law and mergers and acquisitions — BetterSchool is her second technology startup. She holds a J.D. from California Western School of Law and a B.A. from Penn State.

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Table of Contents

  • What is self-determination theory?
  • The three psychological needs
  • Why SDT matters for homeschooling
  • Applying SDT at home
  • The bottom line
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