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Understanding intrinsic motivation in homeschooling

Learn about intrinsic motivation and how it benefits homeschooling. Discover tips to nurture your child's love for learning.
Lisa Thorsen
Written byLisa Thorsen
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Key takeaways
  • Fostering intrinsic motivation in homeschooling is essential for cultivating a lifelong love of learning
  • Key strategies include providing children with autonomy in their learning choices, ensuring tasks are appropriately challenging, and nurturing strong connections through one-on-one interactions and peer relationships
  • Avoid over-reliance on external rewards to maintain their natural curiosity and drive.

Intrinsic motivation is when students learn for personal satisfaction or genuine interest. They engage in activities because they find them rewarding, not for external rewards like grades or prizes.

Research from the National Home Education Research Institute (NHERI) shows that homeschooled students typically score 15 to 25 percentile points higher than public school students on standardized academic achievement tests. A peer-reviewed study published in Peabody Journal of Education found that homeschooled children are typically well-adjusted socially and score above average on measures of social skills, emotional development, and daily living skills (Richard Medlin, 2013).

What is intrinsic motivation?

Intrinsic motivation happens when kids learn because they enjoy it. They dive into books because they love stories—not for a reward. They solve math puzzles because it feels good, not just to pass a test. This inner drive helps them learn better and stay curious for life. Homeschooling is great for this because it avoids many things that can kill motivation in regular classrooms.

Intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation

Extrinsic motivation comes from outside factors like sticker charts or grades. While it can be useful, relying too much on it can hurt intrinsic motivation. For example, a child reading for prizes might stop once the prizes are gone. Intrinsic motivation is self-sustaining. The joy comes from the activity itself. It’s not about getting rid of all external motivation, but encouraging that inner drive to lead the way.

The three pillars of intrinsic motivation

Self-Determination Theory points to three key needs for intrinsic motivation:

  • Autonomy: Kids need some control over what they learn. This means letting them pick which subject to tackle first or choose books.
  • Competence: They need to feel capable. This means giving them tasks that are tough but doable, along with feedback to help them improve.
  • Relatedness: Kids thrive on connection. In homeschooling, one-on-one time with parents and friendships with peers in co-ops help meet this need.

Common mistakes that kill motivation

Some well-meaning actions can accidentally hurt intrinsic motivation. Overusing stickers and prizes can shift focus from learning to earning. Constantly comparing kids to others creates stress instead of inspiration. Always removing challenges can take away the satisfaction of overcoming them. If you notice your child's motivation dropping, check if these patterns are affecting them.

The bottom line

Helping kids develop intrinsic motivation is one of the best things you can do as a homeschooler. When children learn because they want to, they'll carry that passion into adulthood. Homeschooling offers many benefits—like personal attention and flexibility. Build on these strengths by giving them choices, setting achievable challenges, and keeping warm connections alive. When motivation dips (and it will, especially with teens), be patient. Intrinsic motivation grows over time.

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Lisa Thorsen
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Lisa Thorsen

Co-founder, BetterSchool

Lisa is the co-founder of BetterSchool and a homeschool mom of three. BetterSchool administers the largest independent homeschool community in the country — over 350,000 families across all 50 states.

When COVID hit, Lisa and her husband pulled their children out of school and hit the road. Homeschooling wasn't the plan — it was a necessity. But somewhere along the way, the family fell in love with it: the time together, the ability to tailor lessons to each child's interests, learning at their own pace, the freedom to travel, eating healthy on their own schedule, and the countless other benefits that come with homeschooling.

As they traveled, Lisa kept discovering incredible hands-on learning experiences that most homeschool families had no way of finding. She built BetterSchool to make it easy for every family to find and book the experiences that make learning come alive.

Through her community, Lisa has helped hundreds of thousands of parents navigate homeschooling, while also helping local businesses find and serve the homeschool community. She is the former managing partner of a law firm focused on business law and mergers and acquisitions — BetterSchool is her second technology startup. She holds a J.D. from California Western School of Law and a B.A. from Penn State.

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Table of Contents

  • What is intrinsic motivation?
  • Intrinsic vs. extrinsic motivation
  • The three pillars of intrinsic motivation
  • Common mistakes that kill motivation
  • The bottom line
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