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Understanding extrinsic motivation in homeschooling

Discover what extrinsic motivation is and how it can benefit your homeschooling approach at BetterSchool.
Lisa Thorsen
Written byLisa Thorsen
4 min read
Key takeaways
  • Extrinsic motivation can effectively engage children in homeschooling, especially when introducing new subjects or supporting struggling learners
  • However, overreliance on rewards may diminish intrinsic motivation, so it's essential to use rewards sparingly and focus on fostering a love for learning to ensure long-term engagement and success.

Extrinsic motivation is when you do something for an outside reward or to avoid a negative outcome, rather than for personal enjoyment. Common examples include grades, praise, or privileges.

Research from the National Home Education Research Institute (NHERI) shows that homeschooled students typically score 15 to 25 percentile points higher than public school students on standardized academic achievement tests. According to the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES), approximately 3.3 million students were homeschooled in the United States as of 2023, representing roughly 6% of the school-age population.

What is extrinsic motivation?

Extrinsic motivation comes from outside yourself. It’s when you do something to earn a reward or avoid a consequence, not just for fun. Examples include grades, stickers, treats, or praise. For instance, if your child does math to earn screen time, that’s extrinsic motivation. It’s different from intrinsic motivation, where the activity itself brings joy or satisfaction.

When extrinsic motivation works

External rewards can be helpful. They work well for introducing new subjects or completing tough tasks. They can also help struggling learners who need a push. Research shows extrinsic motivation can support kids who lack internal drive. However, it can hinder those who are already motivated. The trick is knowing when to use rewards to help, and when they might get in the way.

The risks of overreliance

Watch out for the 'overjustification effect.' This happens when external rewards lessen internal motivation. If you reward a child for something they love, it might make them enjoy it less. Kids focused only on rewards may learn less, retain less info, and give up more easily when things get tough. One big advantage of homeschooling is the chance to focus on learning instead of grades. Too many rewards can take away from that.

Using rewards wisely

If you choose to use rewards, keep them as surprises instead of promises. Praise effort instead of talent—say, 'You worked hard on that' instead of 'You're so smart.' Give feedback that helps improve skills, not just scores. Use rewards for tasks that don’t interest them at first, then reduce the rewards as their interest grows. If your child keeps asking, 'What do I get?' before starting work, it’s a sign to adjust your approach.

The bottom line

Extrinsic motivation isn’t bad if used wisely. It can spark interest in new or challenging topics. The goal is to help kids shift toward internal motivation as they get more familiar and confident. Kids who are intrinsically motivated tend to be more engaged and successful in the long run. So, think of external rewards as scaffolding, not something permanent.

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Lisa Thorsen
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Lisa Thorsen

Co-founder, BetterSchool

Lisa is the co-founder of BetterSchool and a homeschool mom of three. BetterSchool administers the largest independent homeschool community in the country — over 350,000 families across all 50 states.

When COVID hit, Lisa and her husband pulled their children out of school and hit the road. Homeschooling wasn't the plan — it was a necessity. But somewhere along the way, the family fell in love with it: the time together, the ability to tailor lessons to each child's interests, learning at their own pace, the freedom to travel, eating healthy on their own schedule, and the countless other benefits that come with homeschooling.

As they traveled, Lisa kept discovering incredible hands-on learning experiences that most homeschool families had no way of finding. She built BetterSchool to make it easy for every family to find and book the experiences that make learning come alive.

Through her community, Lisa has helped hundreds of thousands of parents navigate homeschooling, while also helping local businesses find and serve the homeschool community. She is the former managing partner of a law firm focused on business law and mergers and acquisitions — BetterSchool is her second technology startup. She holds a J.D. from California Western School of Law and a B.A. from Penn State.

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Table of Contents

  • What is extrinsic motivation?
  • When extrinsic motivation works
  • The risks of overreliance
  • Using rewards wisely
  • The bottom line
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