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Understanding the soft start in homeschooling

Learn about the Soft Start approach to homeschooling and how it can benefit your family.
Lisa Thorsen
Written byLisa Thorsen
3 min read
Key takeaways
  • Implementing a Soft Start in your homeschool routine can significantly ease morning transitions, allowing kids to engage in low-pressure activities for 15-30 minutes before formal lessons
  • This approach not only reduces stress and conflict but also enhances focus and enjoyment in learning for the entire family.

A Soft Start is a gentle transition at the start of the homeschool day. It allows kids to engage in low-pressure activities before diving into formal lessons.

Most homeschool families report completing core academic subjects in 3-4 hours per day for elementary students, compared to the 6-7 hours typical of traditional schools, due to the one-on-one instruction and absence of classroom management overhead (NHERI, 2024). According to the National Center for Education Statistics (NCES), approximately 3.3 million students were homeschooled in the United States as of 2023, representing roughly 6% of the school-age population.

What is a soft start?

A Soft Start is a planned time at the start of your homeschool day. Instead of jumping into lessons right after breakfast, kids spend 15-30 minutes on relaxing activities. They can choose to read, draw, do puzzles, or play educational games. This method helps both kids and parents ease into the day. You can also think of a Soft Start as a way to begin the school year. Instead of starting with a full curriculum, you add subjects gradually.

How to implement a soft start

Before the school day starts, set out three to four fun activity options. These could include library books, a STEM bin, art supplies, or educational games. After breakfast, kids pick what they want to do without needing your direction. The key is letting them choose freely within some limits. Keep the activities engaging and avoid screens for now. Use this time to prepare lessons or enjoy a peaceful cup of coffee. Once the Soft Start ends, switch to formal subjects.

Benefits for the whole family

Kids who find mornings tough often do better with a Soft Start. It helps avoid the 'sit down and do math NOW' fights that can ruin mornings. Kids feel in charge of how their day begins, which can boost their attitude towards learning. Parents also benefit from having a moment to switch from home tasks to teaching. The calm during the Soft Start can help with focus in later lessons. Families notice better attention, fewer behavior issues, and more fun during school days.

The bottom line

Soft Starts recognize that kids and adults can’t just switch gears instantly. Adding this transition time to your homeschool routine can lessen stress and create better feelings about learning. It works for early risers and slow starters alike — everyone gains from a gentle start to the day. If mornings feel rushed or tense, trying a Soft Start might change how your school day goes.

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Lisa Thorsen
Written by
Lisa Thorsen

Co-founder, BetterSchool

Lisa is the co-founder of BetterSchool and a homeschool mom of three. BetterSchool administers the largest independent homeschool community in the country — over 350,000 families across all 50 states.

When COVID hit, Lisa and her husband pulled their children out of school and hit the road. Homeschooling wasn't the plan — it was a necessity. But somewhere along the way, the family fell in love with it: the time together, the ability to tailor lessons to each child's interests, learning at their own pace, the freedom to travel, eating healthy on their own schedule, and the countless other benefits that come with homeschooling.

As they traveled, Lisa kept discovering incredible hands-on learning experiences that most homeschool families had no way of finding. She built BetterSchool to make it easy for every family to find and book the experiences that make learning come alive.

Through her community, Lisa has helped hundreds of thousands of parents navigate homeschooling, while also helping local businesses find and serve the homeschool community. She is the former managing partner of a law firm focused on business law and mergers and acquisitions — BetterSchool is her second technology startup. She holds a J.D. from California Western School of Law and a B.A. from Penn State.

Table of Contents

  • What is a soft start?
  • How to implement a soft start
  • Benefits for the whole family
  • The bottom line
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